I bring to your attention, Newton’s Laws of motion (simplified):
1. A particle will stay at rest or continue at a constant velocity unless acted upon by an external unbalanced net force…that is to say without something, whether it be big or small, acting upon a particle it will continue its course of action. The same is true for people. People only do to you what you allow them to do, and without an action (big or small) to interrupt their constant behavior it will continue. People will do something continuously until enacted on by some force to do otherwise… In love, you cannot contine the same behavior in a relationship, staying on the same course of action, and expect your partner to respond any differently than they have been responding. If NOTHING has changed, NOTHING will change?! Seems simple enough.
2. F= ma: the net force on an object is equal to the mass of the object multiplied by its acceleration. The change of momentum of a body is proportional to the impulse impressed on the body…A small nudge will warrant small change. A big push will warrant big change. Simple enough. So, in the case of our nation it will take a huge amount of force to move America towards change of any kind. We have to be up to the challenge, my President can’t do it alone…Everybody that was out there going all hard at the polls, I hope you’re still watching some CNN and not just Ray J…In Love: *cue my Tamia song “When a woman,” its so funny but when you make changes in love, generally it starts small. Take the extreme, a man could be beating your ass EVERYDAY but the day he looks crossly at your kids, its like you’ve woken up for the first time to whats been going on in your life. Small epiphanies make big changes…just don’t ignore that small voice because generally its speaking that lesson u need to hear.
3. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction….Of course there will be discourse. If you decide to stop drinking and partying every night, you might lose friends, make that “friends”. If watching CNN incites you to start thinking for yourself instead you will stop believing everything you read or see on TV, TV and newspapers get real infuriating to the point of abhorrance. Nobody said it was easy. Nobody promised that change would come without consequence, in fact its quite the opposite, it will reverberate across your life causing a butterfly effect….in Love: the things you do don’t effect just you, especially in a long-term monogamous relationship. Most times women are not looking to control or invade a mans life, simply to be acknowledged because it will affect her as well. I think men think a little more cut and dry. Men tend to be like, well we not married so I can…and sorry ladies if he feels that way-he’s not the one. Move on.
I think I’m going to start compiling my own laws of love based off vicarious learning and past relationships…because for the same things to be happening day in and day out to (seemingly) the same people, everybody seems to be rather puzzled…Physics this shit is not ;-)