So I have two friends.
K and N.
K and N are both in relationships with really good guys.
N just so happens to be in a relationship with a guy that I’m friends with.
I’m really close with the pair of them and I find it funny that at this particular phase and stage in my life, I’ve grown extremely close to them and see a lot of myself in each. And vice versa. We’re learning the same lessons at the same time.
Now by now you guys should know how I feel about my own relationship. I’m fairly newly dating the man I consider to be the love of my life. So does K. So does N.
Each of us were at points in our lives, low points, where we were struggling to find our place. Struggling to be who we always were when it was so clear that we needed to change. Each of us changed.
We each became different, better women. Women who always had healthy relationships with Christ, but who now found freshly renewed faith and deeper spirituality. Women who were able to better love our men because we better love ourselves. Women who realize that where we are is temporary and that we can get through trials.
More than that though, we-I think-are beating odds. Odds of listening to what others may say about our relationships. Odds of getting caught up in other people and their drama and issues. Odds of marrying because thats what we’re “supposed to do” right now.
We are not in a hurry because we realize that we’re building strong foundations.
I find these ladies remarkable.
Not that I don’t love my other friends…its just that they happen to be where I am right now. I feel like we’re not walking the same steps, but we’re on similar roads and I am able to go to either of them and they know what I’m talking about.
I look at other people’s relationships and its not that I say this is wrong or that is right I see that I would not want something like that. I feel like with K and N their relationships seem to be like my own.
I wonder if it is due to our spirituality.
Pastor Wakefield said if you don’t talk to God before you get married you’ll DEFINITELY talk to Him after.
KSH+NCS I love you ladies…expect to continue our talks
