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bbm, blackberry, men, relationships, technology, texting, women
This little thing is a THORN in every single girls’ side. For some reason…men have taken to wanting to text/bbm (thats Black.Berry Message) rather than pick up the phone and CALL. I’m trying to figure out why this is. Now granted, I’m not single…but I still have single girlfriends who complain about this issue. One friend LT refuses to continue conversing with a guy if he texts her before calling her. Another friend, NK doesn’t mind the BBM banter. Friend AN’s boyfriend hates that she BBMs because he can’t BBM with her…and lastly and perhaps most infuriating, friend JH is “talking” to a guy who only BBMs and seemingly refuses to call her.
Now guys…girls are NOT going to want to call you. I don’ care how new age independent she is, her friends all aren’t…and they’re going to speak up and ask WHY is she calling you so much when her phone lies dormant. I also realize that texting/bbming/tweeting/skyping/gchatting/face.bookchatting is all common place now-a-days but honestly, we just want to hear your voice. ON the phone, not the computer. For some girls, its not an every night thing…just occasionally..and we don’t want to have to ask. I can tell you right now if you’re not calling your girl she’s wondering why you don’t want to talk to her. Its just how we operate.
Deeds and I don’t phone much. He hates it, I maxed out on it back in 7th grade, BUT if I want to talk to him no doubt about it he’ll call lol…I even called him once (red letter day because I’m not the caller…) Now as for friend JH, this guy is new…they haven’t been on a date yet, and everytime she drops a hint to “CALL ME” the guy…we’ll call him BBMarcus..well he won’t call! JH has called BBMarcus and he’s said he was busy and would call back but would inevitably BBM. JH is about at her wit’s end. I suggested talking to him and asking whats the deal (in my years of study and dating I’ve learned that men don’t take hints very well…AT ALL). My guess is BBMarcus doesn’t realize how close he is to being barred.
But really…WHAT is the deal?
Are you guys afraid you won’t have anything to say?
Do you not have a home and fear that we’ll hear the cars along the highway?
Do you have Sprint?
Can a sista get a phone call!!!???
I love this because its SO TRUE! The last guy I “talked” to made a few calls in the beginning but then it went into the strictly texting category and got on my nerves. I learned my lessson, because I should have spoken up in the beginning about how I can’t get to know someone over text message. Of course we’re not talking on that level anymore, but I know the next time I meet a guy I’m gonna let him know–either talk or walk!