My Secret Garden

At work we had the book Nurture by Nature by Dr. E. Michael Ellovich and it helps you to understand your child’s personality type.  Well since I’m childless I use it to read and see if it matches up with my own personality type and childhood experience.  Theoretically your MBTI personality type doesn’t change, so heres what it says:

  • INFPs have vivid imaginations and are fascianted with things out of the ordinary.  They love to pretend and can invent elaborate stories and games that last for hours.
  • Some INFJs are early readers (some as young as two) interesting… I was reading by age 3, their highly developed intuition helps them understand and decode the symbols of language much earlier than many of their peers, they generally love language and learning new words.
  • They often have a beautiful view of the world that can be quite moving, once they get to know you they will share their ideas, visions and dreams quiet freely and with great enthusiasm.
  • INFJs are usually highly sensistive children who are particularly tuned in to the emotional climate of their families according to my mom this is true.  INFJs withdraw when they are frightened and have very emotional reactions to everything.  They are easily embarrassed, tend to cry easily, and apologize quickly.
  • Because INFJs make deep attachments to the people they care about, they may have real difficulty saying goodbye or separating.  They are hurt by mean or insensitive behavior and are vulnerable to teasing and generally dislike any kind of competition.  Man this is a Daddy issues, hyper sensitivity, and that bit about competition…oh hell yes, I don’t compete with people. You can win…I’m competing with myself and even then its not so serious.
  • Most INFJs are polite and compliant children.  They are comfortable with routine and like order around them.  They are gentle, patient, and solicitous children and are usually well liked by their peers.  They like to play with one friend at a time and prefer other gentle children like themselves.  However, they would rather play with their parents than peers, they are selective aout choosing situations that require a lot of social energy and can tire too much from interaction.
  • INFJs naturally see the big picture and tend to tune out when they hear too many details.  They may miss instructions or directions because they are too busy in their heads and diconnected from the outside world.
  • INFJs are eager to learn and usually love an activity related to reading, writing, creative expressions, the arts, and learning about people in different cultures BING this is so me, that’s pretty much all I care(d) about in school.
  • Parents may find that once their INFJ child has made up their mind, it is virtually impossible to get him to change it.  INFJs like structure and are uncomfortable leaving their options open for too long.
  • INFJs need privacy to make connections and develop their ideas and visions, the creative process is a solitary one.  INFJs will avoid showign their writing or drawing to anyone until it is finish, comments and suggestions from onlookers may spoil the whole project for them.  INFJs have a tendency toward perfectionism, they work hard over working, reworking, correcting and perfecting.
  • INFJs are original thinkers, guided always by their unfailing belief in he valiue of their vision.  They are highly responsible and moral people who live by a code of ethics that places personal integrity above all else.  INFJs will work tirelessly to accomplish their mission, they are caring and loving individuals and inspirational leaders with artisitic spirits and ideallistic hearts.  When encouraged to stick to their beliefs and to learn to assert themselves, they will bravely follow their vision and be uncompromising in their pursuit of personal growth and empowerment for themselves and those around them.

Well yup…sounds like me…check out INTJ after the jump

I would like to note that I’m doing this just for KaNisa…lol she will like it.

INTJ (Creating Perfection)

  • INTJs pride themselves on their individuality and on the uniqueness of their ideas and thinking.  Their most striking and highly developed characteristic is their inner vision and internal connections they make.  Intensely private, they don not like being figured out.
  • Many parents remark that their INTJ children seem older than their years, wiser.  They are watchful and observant, usually self-contained and calm they do not tend to be smiley babies and can seem almost too detatched.  INTJs are usually happy to play alone for extended periods of time and are hesitant to get involved with other children.   Early and sophistocated language is a common trait they seem to skip the baby talk phase and move right into intelligent conversation.
  • INTJs are more fascinated with new experiences than with new people, they like to play with toys that surprise them, or creative structures.  They enjoy testing their environment to understand it more fully.  INTJs are happiest when they are given plenty of room an dtime to explore what interests them.
  • INTJs are usually comforted and comfortable with routines and strucure, they lik to know whats going on in advance.  They take longer than one might expect to make decisions, however, needing to make sure they have necesary information so that they can be confident in their actions.
  • INTJs in school love the arts and dramatic play.  They are natural inventors and enjoy making scientific experiements.  They are the best at open ended projects that allow them to work on their own and are usually more interested in designign and starting projects that engaging in maintenance.  INTJs are independent of the highest order and spend much of their lives in their own world.  Prone to perfectionism, they are highly competitive with themselves and must meet or exceed their own ideals to be satisfied.  All the praise and glory in the world will not alter their opinion of what they’ve done, they remain highly unphased by the outside world.
  • For many INTJs academics are their first priority.  They usually have strong opinions about fairness and justice.  They can be surprisingly passionate in their arguments and willing to stand up for things they lieve in.
  • INTJs are independent, intellectual capable and confident people with incredibly high personal standards.  They may have a lengthy period of self-discovery but then settle down to a relatively conventional lifestyle.  They aspire to be the best at whatever they do and need an ever steeper learnign curve throughout their lives to achieve that good.  Unconditional love for an INTJ begins and ends with respect.

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