A Liminal New Year

Let us just begin by stating that prior to Zachary, I had never even heard of the word ‘liminal’ and now I am using it to describe a very real phenomenon.  Not sure that I have mentioned, but I will be travelling to Santiago, Chile soon.  I am going for a class but will be leaving on December 31st and arriving in Chile on January 1. What this means is that I will be “in between” when the new year rings in.  It dawned on me just yesterday that this was less of a hinderance (because New Year’s Eve is my favorite holiday and how dreadful to be on a plane instead of celebrating–to further this aside, many have tried to argue that I will be on a plane…heading to CHILE but that, to me, did not negate the fact that I’ll be covered in strangers’ germs and peanut salt rather than glitter and champagne residue) and more amazing happenstance.

Before I continue, a lesson on liminality. From what I understand of it, it is literally a state that exists in between two readily identifiable places; one of a past way (which you have left) and one of a way yet to be (which you have yet to embody, fully).  Zachary calls it the third space. I think of it as grey.  In any case, because of the time differences when travelling, I will be in-between many things:

  • Places–> North and South America, home and destination
  • Times–> time..I’ll move through december on into january and out of 2012 on into 2013, plus time zones–I mean will I fly right through Midnight? Just goes to show how menial and contrived these things really are..
  • Space–> What else would you describe 30,000 feet as?

When I reframed my thinking and realized that this trip will be an extraordinary opportunity to experience simultaneous multidimensional liminal states, I can’t lie I got pretty excited. Zachary described it as magical, and I suppose that in large part I see it the same way. Talk about falling down the rabbit hole…but I wondered (aloud, and to him) what it means that I’ve found myself set up for this experience? Surely it is no coincidence  and of course many people do this sort of thing often, but I wonder if they consider it as phenomenal?  I wonder what it means for me, for the trajectory of my life and my being, for my work (academic and otherwise)?

Of course, there are the normal things to be excited about…its my first time out of the country (out of the CONTINENT/ HEMISPHERE), it’s going to be summer in Chile (not that winter in San Diego is anything to complain about.  I am going to get to take amazing photos which is something I do not do enough of these days. I am also going to get to be learning about change within educational policy.

Honestly though, I am most excited that I am going. What I mean by that is that the trip is booked. My flight is booked. I did not allow myself to see  any other option other than going and I set my intentions to making it happen. I faced any problems head on and kept insisting that I was going. I’ve been working really hard at not letting money be a barrier and it seems to be paying off. This new mindset is foreign and taxing, to be honest, but I am seeing how trust in a way much more knowledgeable than I really works.

Now, I need to brush up on my spanish:-/



shawty got gifts

Napoleon Dynamite said guys like girls who have skills. I don’t know what kind of ‘skills’ he was referring to but I’ve got some of what I’d like to think are ‘skills’.  I can’t give too much away on the internet cuz the streets don’t whisper but I’m just sayin…Somebody better tell ’em mayne they swag owe my swag everything very plain to see you study me awful hard to the point that my swag need a bodyguar…

SWAGGER [swag-er] (verb) 1. to walk or strut with a defiant or insolent air. (noun) 2. ostentatious display of arrogance or conceit.

And the winner of the party4 NYE is going to be ThEvElVeTrOoM!!!  I hate when people type like that but I didn’t know how to make it exciting otherwise lol. I already have a trillion black dresses so I’ma pick one that I haven’t worn before and buss out my new kicks-all drinks on someone else cuz this 1s pay day slick comes on the 2nd. Thats ok OHHHH and all you ATLiens somethin to check out is Sunday bruch at Artistry, its $15 breakfast buffet and $15 bottomless mimosas.  I can’t wait for A to move down so I’ll have a friend to try these things with. I think I might drag D while he’s here though.  *cheers*

Oh and here’s another pic of my hair which I’m a little bit in ♥ with

♥ natural hair

♥ natural hair


So new years eve is the one time a year when you can go out looking like a disco ball, be drunk, kiss a stranger and people not think less of you. Now this of course calls for a FABULOUS dress and FMPumps…My shoe game is nice already but I need a new dress. That’s right the 13 LBDs in my closet don’t suffice, and neither do the 4 or 10 others that I have “just because”…So since I hate crowds…edress shopping I go. Of course I’ve looked at Nordstrom.com, eDressme.com, Net-A-Porter (no I can’t afford them but I get style ideas)…and nothing. Nothing more than an idea. I really want to be in purple!  Here are some thoughts:

Simple, looks like something made on Project Runway...

Simple, looks like something made on Project Runway...

Pretty basic, dunno how I feel about the small pleats though...

Pretty basic, dunno how I feel about the small pleats though...


*sigh* nicole miller...at 50% off:-)

I gotta make my decision soon because it needs to get here in time for an accessory consult lol. OH and here are probable shoes :

Yes I have a secret desire to be like Carrie

Yes I have a secret desire to be like Carrie

And these babies are on their way as we speak allll the way from across the Pond!!!  Haute! I should not have a visa…

Carol of the Belle’s

I’m starting not to like my own kind. Women that is. They say that if you have issues with multiple people it might be you. I’m willing to accept that. Maybe its me…or maybe women just like to complain, in unison, or in rounds, in harmony, or perhaps a nice minor key to make it sound sad…I realize the irony as I am complaining myself, but the difference is I am essentially complaining to no one as this is MyBlOg and also I’m fixing the problem. Here’s a key…men complain then fix, women complain. Thats it. Speaking in generalizations of course, to every sex there is an anomaly. So yes I’m limiting my homo-conversational contact at least until after the new year. People’s emotions are high right now. Especially with the shortages of wii fits (btw amazing, get one if you can).

Meanwhile, I’m debating on what to do for New Years…the party at the FOX sounds nice but I sincurly hate clubs and crowds. Perfect attitude needed for the biggest party day of the year.  If I had the dollars I’d go to somebody’s island and stay in a villa and do nothing  but get pampered for a week…The older I get the less need I have for the outside world. For once I can say that a man friend might be beneficial to just watch the coundown from home, drink some champagne, and etc. Just sayin. Maybe in 2010. I might be up for it by then. Ahhhhh and GitChoFix of Aaron McGruder until Boondocks Season 3. I found this a while ago but just forgot to post it…